I'm still in and know quite a few brothers who have either bent or broke a rule in order to help someone in the congregation. They are in the minority but are there nonetheless. Speaking casually to a disfellowshipped brother or sister at the KH is a heroic act, imo. Displaying mercy even when the Watchtower is against it is also a heroic act. Saying nothing when a parent is secretly associating with a disfellowshipped son who does not live at home is loving and, in the JW religion, also heroic.
Frank